Do you agree that it's selfish...?

yes. I think that when anyone has a child they consider the possibility that they could die when their child is young, after all, it happens all the time, car accidents, illness, but for a person to have a child when they KNOW that they will die when their child is still young is horrible. The average age for a woman to die is 80, so this woman, and women like her know that they will most likely die before their child enters their teens.